Here is a thought provoking conversation, shared by Patrick McNally and Dorry Bless, about the role of a Celebrant. It succinctly articulates the value-story behind crafting and enacting ceremonies to mark life milestones, especially those involving loss.

I am a Life Cycle Celebrant and I honor my clients’ stories, beliefs and values when I compose and lead original ceremonies. Naturally, I love how this interview offers honest insight into the healing nature of relevant ceremony!  As Patrick says, ceremonies are “not just for the benefit of the community,” they may also “help us to orient ourselves, give us perspective, and provide us with reassurance when we face new roles and challenges in life.” 

I am a regular reader of the Daily Undertaker Blog, edited by Wisconsin based Funeral Director Patrick McNally. I am thankful he posted his very thoughtful conversation with Dorry, a fellow Life Cycle Celebrant. She is founder of Circle of Life Ceremonies in New Jersey and someone I am truly happy to call a colleague! In the interview, Dorry eloquently states our broader perspective as Life Cycle Celebrants by saying:

Dorry Bless of 'Circle of Life Ceremonies'

“We tend to see our clients and their lives as a ‘work of art’. The ordinary is truly recognized as the extraordinary when we look closely and pay attention. The small gestures are the big ones – -the kindnesses that make life wonderful and worthwhile. We paint their story with the words, readings and rituals selected. Everyone experiences their own version of the hero’s journey throughout their lives — even when they veer off that path due to circumstance. Ceremony allows us to view this and experience it on a heartfelt and cellular level. Each client’s story is reflected in a way that is truthful, authentic and genuine to them so that each ceremony is ultimately different.”

Thank you, Pat and Dorry, for sharing your conversation with us all. Your perspectives and wise experiences will surely give readers new insights and bright inspirations, as well!

In Gratitude,

Kristine

Yes – really! Here is a recent Arizona Republic article on the topic of home funeral rites, to which I contributed the story about my dear friend, Ruth. (The title might conjure up confusing images of Home Depot, but keep reading!) I appreciate how the writer took careful time to compose this piece, gathering contributions from important leaders in the home funeral movement. Ruth was an educator and woman of strong opinions – especially about natural burial. So, I do believe she would have appreciated such an article, too!

Painting a cardboard cremation container at a Final Passages workshop.

People can participate in many creative ways during family-led funerals. It may surprise you how having a purpose to serve after a death occurs in a family or community may ease uncertainties and awkwardness. For example, people can build and decorate a container for burial or cremation. Young and old folks alike may find it healing to paint designs and express their feelings. People may also help with the filing of paperwork, decorating a room for the deceased to ‘lie-in-grace’, or cooking meals during the vigil.

May was a month full of meaningful work for me, preparing weddings and memorials. So, I meant to get this article posted sooner! And yet, the timing now is perfect because I had a home funeral consultation with a family earlier this week. They had complete clarity around caring for their elderly Mother at home during the continuum of her daily life now, throughout and after her passing. Because they birthed all three of their kids at home with birth midwives, they see death at home and my support services as a death midwife as a natural part of life, too. Simply and naturally beautiful.

The process of honoring Ruth’s wishes for natural care, as told in the Arizona Republic article, inspired me to add this work to my client services at Sweetgrass Ceremonies. I couldn’t be more thankful to her for the life-affirming journey I am on now. In April, I received certification as a Death Midwife from Jerrigrace Lyons of Final Passages.  I am humbled by and grateful for the opportunity to serve families in this way.

Much love,

Kristine